Chez Shadman Shadman is a fourth-year
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Experimentation. You’ve heard me say it before, and
I’ll say it again: It is vital to any relationship.
It allows for change and growth and gives you new perspectives
on yourself and your partner. Whether it’s your favorite
porno or inviting a third person to join in, experimenting is a
great learning experience that is fun too.
However, this column isn’t going to be about sex toys and
my favorite positions from the Kama Sutra.
What do poles, mirrors and a bunch of voyeurs remind you of?
It’s certainly not church.
Still guessing?
Well, my friends, I’m talking about strip clubs ““
“gentleman’s clubs” if you prefer. Ah yes … one
of the many illegitimate children of society ““ or so they
say. Well I’m here not only to defend such havens of
entertainment, but also to suggest them as a form of
experimentation.
To eliminate any confusion, let me begin by stating the
difference between a male and a female strip club: males perform at
male strip clubs, while females perform at female strip clubs.
There is about a one-to-50 ratio of male to female strip clubs
out there. For any of you who have made the effort to look, you
know the dilemma. It’s of no importance though because I
don’t consider male stripping nearly as erotic as female
stripping.
Think about it. What would you do if a half-naked man put his
shaft of love right up in your face and started shaking it wildly?
Trust me, there’s nothing sexual about it.
Now the female body is definitely beautiful to all and therefore
pleasing to watch. Many of you men out there may already know what
I’m talking about. After all, you dominate the female strip
club scene. Now ladies, isn’t it high time you, too, realized
what strip clubs have to offer?
It’s really simple. Gather a bunch of friends (or your
partner if you dare to be so bold) and head over to your local
strip club.
You might be asking yourself what it is I’m getting at. In
fact, I can hear many of you thinking, “Chez, why do you want
us to go to a female strip club?”
Well, it’s simple. Growing up, we’re all taught to
like members of the opposite sex and that same-sex relationships
should never exceed friendship. Society is not a big fan of change
or variety and so, from a young age, all girls are taught to look
for Prince Charming. In fact, I wouldn’t be surprised if most
girls do seek him out and are now happy as a result.
But prior to making such a commitment, there’s plenty of
room for these girls to try new things.
How many of you ladies have ever felt something more than
friendship for another female? You don’t have to be shy when
answering this. Just remember it’s between you and me. I bet
you’ve even fantasized about being intimate with another
female at some point in your life. Of course, the thought left as
quickly as it came because you were told that such a way of life
isn’t normal or accepted.
A lot of women have found themselves pondering bisexual
thoughts. There is nothing wrong with this ““ and I’m
certain it’s natural.
My advice? Don’t knock it until you try it.
Strip clubs are a wonderful preliminary step in pursuing such a
fantasy. It is a wonderful way to explore your feelings and gain a
new perspective on your experimental capacity.
Of course, the answer to your sexual preference is not the only
thing you could gain from such an adventure. Seeing something new
also serves to enhance the imagination. And remember: when used to
its fullest capacity, imagination makes your sex life that much
better.
Not only does imagination make sex better, but good sex is
heavily reliant on it. The more erotic your fantasy, the more
fulfilling your sexual escapades. Your experiences at a strip club
can certainly help build your imagination.
If it’s something you have never experienced before, then
there will be a definite improvement in your thought process during
life’s most intimate moments.
Even if you don’t begin to explore different aspects of
your sexuality or throw a girl or two into that head of yours, you
can still gain new perspectives at a strip club.
For example, if your partner really likes what he or she sees at
such a club, you might want to invest a little time in learning the
ropes. Granted, it might take you a while to learn how to walk in
Stiletto heels, but it could be well worth the practice. Buy some
sexy lingerie, put on some music and see what you can do.
Strip clubs may not be for all, but I still recommend trying
them out just to be sure. After all, how else are you supposed to
know your preferences in life?
The more you try, the more you will know, and the greater your
experience will be. With every new excursion comes newfound
experience and ultimately wisdom.
As for me? I’m getting my very own pole installed at home
today.